As an online therapist, I have a lot of clients coming to me for advice on how to make a difficult decision in their life. So I thought I’d make a quick blog on what I’ve found to be helpful.
Here you go…
While yes pros and cons lists are often great in decision making, they probably aren’t going to help too much when it comes to a really difficult decision.
The decision wouldn’t be a difficult one if there were more pros than cons.
So, what can you do?
One thing that I have tried to focus on, when I have had to make difficult decisions in my own life, is my values. What is it that you value in your life that is effected by this decision?
Let’s say you are deciding between staying where you are and moving to another country. This is a complex big decision with a seriously long list of pros and cons.
Start by looking at what you value in staying and what you really value in leaving.
For example, staying might serve your values of security and familiarity and certainty. Whereas leaving might be in line with your values of being with family and of being adventurous and embracing change.
While all of these things might be values to you, it’s often easier to prioritise our values at a given point in our life.
For example, while I really love security and familiarity and I’m such a creature of habit; I know that in this point in my own life, I’d rather prioritise adventure and embracing change.
I hope you found that helpful and that you start to live more and more of your life in line with what you truly value.
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